This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was always a creature of habit. "A place for everything , and everything in it's place kind of guy. "Al" on the other hand, not so much. Although, Sheri did leave the bathroom is in it's place, "Al" still can't find it :)

Monday, October 20, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

In Sheri's never ending quest to keep Bob involved in activities, Sheri gave "Al" a bucket of  electrical terminals she bought at an overstock store. She thought since they were colored red , blue and yellow, that maybe she could get "Bob" to sort them. "Al" might have been content to just sort them, but "they" were struggling because that little part of "Bob the hardware guy"  that remains, felt  he could not sort them without knowing what "exactly" they were going to be used for.  :)

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was frustrated at work (code for Adult Day Center), no one wanted to cooperate. "Al" can't understand why no one has any ambition. (Sheri thinks it might be because most of his "employees" are well over 80 :)

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Friday, October 17, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob wanted to help feed the cats but as soon as Sheri let Bob fill the bowl, "Al" kept blocking Zoey the  cat with his arm, saying "I think we have to move this, to keep her out of it."  :)

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob and "Al" are showing new signs of anxiety now. A car or truck goes by the front of the house, the noise is a concern for him. If "they" can hear a fire truck or police car siren, a look of worry and confusion sweeps over "Al's" face and he will say "what is that?" with fear in his voice. Sheri has to say "it is okay it, they are going to help some one, or it is along way away."
Sheri hates this disease.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri does not like it when people say "Bob looks good" She knows they me well, but "Al" destroys from the inside out, looks are deceiving. 

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is thinking she is no longer living with "Bob" and "Al". The truth is she is living with "Al" and a little bit of Bob.
Still holding on.

Monday, October 13, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al "

Bob woke up very early Saturday morning and the only thing on his mind was "the plan" for the day, when he found out it was not a "work" day. So Sheri packed a picnic lunch and took off with Bob and "Al" and camera in tow. They left at about 9:00 am and did not return until after sunset. They had a lovely day of fall picture taking and although Sheri was exhausted, it felt good that she had satisfied "the plan". They had been home less than 10 minutes, Sheri with her feet up ( after having walked so much) "Al" moaning with back pain, in Bob's favorite chair, when "Al" turns to Sheri and says "What would you would like to do today?"
Oy vey...


Sunday, October 12, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sometimes if just happens it without warning. A wave of emotion that sneaks up on Sheri in a split second. Bob wanted to help Sheri, she was trying to loosen a board on a stand she uses for photography. She was using a hammer and Bob was sure he could do it. Sheri finally gave in and gave him the hammer. Bob was Mr. Fixit , the manager of a hardware store in his last career, surely he could loosen a board with a hammer. It was not that he could not hit the board, he just could not retain what he was suppose to do. Within seconds he was reaching for an area in a different place on the stand saying "should I do this ?" it had nothing to do with what needed to be done, Sheri tried several times to show him. She wanted to believe he could do it. Bob could fix and build anything. But "Al" can't retain a thought process for more than seconds. Sheri feels terrible that she snapped at Bob. Unfortunately, her bottled up emotions snapped too. Her anger, her fear, everything came tumbling out. As usual Bob and "Al" did not notice she was upset which of course was a blessing. Sheri knows none of this is his fault, but this particular task just made it so very clear how much "Al" has taken from Bob.
Sheri HATES this disease.