This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was sitting in his chair working on his nuts and bolts last night when "Al" looked at Sheri and said "I wanted to get these all cleaned up before Mom gets home."
Sheri's heart hurts.

Monday, July 6, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri must have been really tired last night. She found Bob and sitting in his chair at 2:45 am this morning. "Al" was working on his nuts and bolts... in the dark holding each one up toward the hall light she leaves on so "Al" does not fall. She did not hear "them" get up.

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Three day weekends are hard for Sheri. Eventually yesterday, she just put Bob and "Al" in the car and drove around for hours. Bob was content just sitting but "Al" chatted non stop about everything he had done. Yesterday we added building the retainer walls on the highway, and painting all the reflector dots on the roads, to his resume. He did them all by hand in just a day or two. It must be very hard to be looking for who you are, when you don't know who you were.

Saturday, July 4, 2015

Living with Bob and"Al"

In Sheri's never ending quest to keep Bob and "Al" active and involved AND allow Sheri to get the lawn mowed, Sheri needs to be creative. Sheri found some old lights in garage and asked "Al" to clean and "fix" them. It worked perfectly "Al" puttered with them for quite some time and Sheri was able to get all the yard work done and still keep Bob and "Al" busy. :)

Friday, July 3, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri had to stop at Target on her way home last night. She asked "Al" if he needed to use the restroom. Bob hesitated for a moment and then "Al" replied " do they charge for that?"
Heavy sigh.

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob managed a hardware store in his last career and was always a handyman, which is why "Al" is able to sit and screw nuts on bolts for hours, it is a familiar task a familiar feel. He is not able to do the 36 piece Alzheimer puzzles anymore and when "they" fold clothes "they" will fold and unfold the same piece over and over again, but it is ok "they" feel like "they" are accomplishing something and that is all that matters :)

Wednesday, July 1, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob is living in his own little world, where "work"(code for adult day center), choir, his nuts and bolts and his new shoes are all that matters to him. When Sheri asked him how was his day was, "Al" replied "The guys just couldn't do the nuts and bolts like I do, but they like my shoes and everyone was talking about them (the fashionista that he is). The next thing he says is "but I have not heard a thing about when we will have choir." Now mind you, these are broken sentences said in the way that Sheri understands but not fluid thoughts.Then he says nothing else the rest of the evening.
Sheri is glad Bob can not see "Al", he was not one to brag about his skills at all, and he certainly was not into shoe choice. :)

Tuesday, June 30, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri keeps trying to remember that God has a plan for her life, and that He works all things together for good. She hates the loneliness that comes with this disease. Her jealousy of others overtakes her mind and she gets depressed. She try's to see through the pain to the other side, but the ocean feels pretty big sometimes.
Psalm 38:9
O Lord, all my longing is before you; my sighing is not hidden from you.

Monday, June 29, 2015

Living with Bob and "Al"

Right after Sheri took that video from yesterdays posting, when the music stopped "Al"  turned to Sheri and asked  "Do you use shoes?"  Such randomness, and such a deceiving disease.