This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Tuesday, August 30, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

At church on Sunday, daughter number one tried to quiet "Al" when he was slapping and singing at a time of quite reflection and prayer. She put her hand slightly over his and said it was a special song and that only the lady up front was singing right now. "Al" with a tone of angry confidence replied "This is choir, and that is what we are suppose to do." And in many ways, he was right.

Psalm 5:11
But let all who take refuge in You be glad, Let them ever sing for joy; And may You shelter them, That those who love Your name may exult in You.

Monday, August 29, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

"Al" out did himself at church yesterday. He was saluting everyone, waving Bob's hands in the air, in  shall she say a very unfamiliar way. He was talking out loud at inappropriate times, not to mention the cane banging, hand slapping and really being well ... "Al". This behavior was incredibly out of character, Bob would never draw attention to himself, always sat quietly in the back round. Sheri could not help but think that Bob would have been devastated at "Al's" behavior. To be honest Sheri was embarrassed She knows this is not Bob's fault, and she knows it just is what it is... in many ways Sheri feels that her embarrassment is covering up that realization that there is no stopping "Al" and that Bob's shy gentle personality is gone and that Sheri's heart hurts.

Sunday, August 28, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

If Sheri were honest she would tell you she has had a life time struggle with "stuff ". Not valuable stuff, just stuff. she is sure if she dug deep enough she would be able to figure out why, but she no longer feels the need to spend precious time figuring that out. Her last move from the house she raised her children in was extremely traumatic for her in so many ways. As she prepares to move again she truly feels the desire to lighten her load and has been trying to get rid of excess baggage. There has been something much more therapeutic then traumatic about this process this time. Accepting and understanding that the things of this world are far less important than caring for the broken and hurting in this world is etched on her heart.  Maybe, just maybe Sheri needed to be this broken to feel the brokenness of others.
Sheri needs to pause, praise and pray.
Galatians 6:2
Bear one another's burdens, and thereby fulfill the law of Christ.

Saturday, August 27, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

 Sheri is wondering if she can convince Bob to explain to "Al" they are retired and should try to sleep in, because It is 6:00 am on a Saturday, and "Al" wants to know the "itinerary".
Gonna be a loooooong day.

Friday, August 26, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri feels like Bob and "Al" are on a pretty good slide right now, but she is trying to place her attention on all the good things that are happening in her life. Daughter Number One ( The one who wears her heart on her sleeve) is getting married in December. Daughter Number Two (the one who shields her heart with her sleeve) and her husband are coming home from California for good soon, and Sheri is moving to a more manageable place in the next month or so as well. She just needs to stay focused on making all the pieces to fit into place. Come to think of it she may just need to think like Bob and borrow "Al's" scotch tape :)

Thursday, August 25, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

There are days when Bob and "Al"can barely get any sentences put together, and then there are days the boys surprise her. "Al"offered Sheri some of Bob's bolts yesterday morning. Sheri politely declined and said "Oh thanks, but those are for you." "Al" replied "They give me these bolts when I sing in the choir so I have "beaucoup". She just chuckled in wonderment to herself, Bob has been known to throw in a German word here or there, or even a "Ya, you bet'cha" but she doesn't ever remember any French coming out of his mouth. What a strange disease. :)

Wednesday, August 24, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob found a new way to make music, and he was quite proud of himself. "Al" took the nut and ran it up and down the ridges on the bolt creating another sound to add to Bob's whistling, slapping, tapping and clapping. Bob and "Al" could be a one man band (wait... would that be a two man band? LOL :)
Gotta love him... and find some earplugs :)

Tuesday, August 23, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

When Bob and "Al" had their scotch tape fest, "Al" also managed to tape down puzzle pieces directly on to the tray Sheri puts on his lap. The next morning, as Bob was attempting to work on the puzzle he got upset and said "Someone stuck these down on here! What a mess."
Heavy sigh.... :)

Monday, August 22, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

In Sheri's never ending quest to keep Bob active in engaged, Sheri gave Bob (if you remember from last weeks activities) some scotch tape for his large 12 piece Alzheimer puzzle, (in lieu of a knife to trim the pieces to fit). Well Sheri had lots of chores in the house yesterday and she guesses she may have left "the Boys" alone with the scotch tape...just a little too long.

On the bright side, "Al" has a creative side Bob never showed and the bonus is "they" taped them to the inside of the puzzle box, with of course a touch of design flare with the pink paper placement taken from "work" taped down first as the back round :)

Sunday, August 21, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

"Al" was commenting on how hard "he" had been working on all the road construction, and how frustrated Bob was with the other workers. Sheri decided to just go with the flow and said " Oh, so you have been helping them with the roads?" "Al" replied "A.... NO...THEY have been helping ME."
Once a boss always a boss :)