This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Friday, July 1, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Last evening Bob politely asked Sheri "if there was a restroom at this location?" Sheri replied " yes, and got him to right "location". Then "Al" looked at Sheri quizzically and said " but does it go in both directions?" Sheri ,not sure what he was talking about paused a moment and then just nodded in agreement and said "yep" to which "Al" replied "oh good, thank you". Sometimes you just have to go with the flow:)

Thursday, June 30, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri needs to remind herself that living in the moment is all any of us have. She has to keep asking herself  "am I enjoying living each day the best I can in the present circumstances of my life?" To often she is not. Too much time spend frustrated by others whom she can not change, rather than seeing how she might be able to change her own behavior. Today she will start anew, trying to look for the good in her life and in others. Maybe like "Al" she should be whistling "to  God be Glory " right now.
Sheri needs to pause, praise and pray.

Wednesday, June 29, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

If Sheri were honest, she would tell you she often envy's the other couples her age she sees walking hand in hand, or leaning in close at restaurants. She knows it is not right, but she is only human.  But then again MAYBE they are holding hands to keep the other from wandering off, and MAYBE they are leaning to close to check to see if their "Al" needs to use the restroom (but with a really big smile on their face.) See... Sheri feels better already. Well honestly not quite yet, but she is hoping the power of positive thinking will take over soon. :) 

Proverbs 14:30 

A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.

Tuesday, June 28, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

"Dear "Al", Bob did not appreciate the nine vanilla wafers in his .... well you know where you put them. It really made for a shall we say "crummy" nights sleep. :)

Monday, June 27, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sometimes the funniest things happen. "Al" was on his way to the bathroom... the long way around through the kitchen. Bob walked back to the living room mumbling something and Sheri said "I am sorry I did not hear what you said." Bob spoke again this time clear as day " do you want to take a picture? There is a frog on the wall." Sheri said "do you mean a fly?" "Al" very nonchalantly  repeated "no a frog" as he sat back down in his chair. Sheri chuckled to herself and thought poor man,  so confused. Sheri went to see what he talking about, imagine her surprise when she looked at the wall in the kitchen and low and behold there was a frog!"
 Now, how a frog got on the kitchen wall I have no idea, but it was unusual enough that even "Al" noticed :)

Sunday, June 26, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Well yesterday was the day! Sheri went to the Arboretum  for her photography class courtesy of the Kathi Koll Foundation through nomination of The Caregivers Voice. It was 90 plus degrees outside and so humid you could hardly breathe, and even with the threats of tornados, but Sheri put on her big girl pants and what a wonderful experience. The breathtaking humidity was nothing compared to the beauty of this majestic bird!   There are three short clips and then the results! ( and yes this is what I look like when I go to take pictures lol! Don't tell any one :)
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What a huge blessing! Thank you daughter number one for caring for Bob and "Al"!

Saturday, June 25, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Dear "Al",
There is really no reason to sneak around and try to work on your nuts and bolts  at 2:30am. Sheri promises Bob will let you work on them during day... with the light on.
Love Sheri

Friday, June 24, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was agitated when she picked him up from "work" (code for Adult Day Center) yesterday. "Al" had his thumb in Bob's belt loop stretching out Bob's back in his usual way, and with anger and frustration in his voice, declared "I need to find a different place to work... there is absolutely NO cooperation here."
A oh time for a new plan. Which is don't mention work again tonight and "Al" will forget by morning  See always a bright side. :)

Thursday, June 23, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sometimes something very unexpected happens. Sometimes there are strangers that bless others in ways so unexpected that it makes it hard to swallow. Such is the way Sheri was blessed by a complete stranger. Please click this link to The Caregivers Voice website  and read the article, to see how the wonderful Kathi Koll Foundation blessed Sheri in the most unexpected way. A big thank you as well to Brenda Avadian for passing along my name to the foundation.
Sheri is blessed beyond words, and has a huge lump in her throat. God is good.
Do you know a caregiver in need?

Wednesday, June 22, 2016

Living with Bob and "Al"

A couple of weeks ago, Sheri got to meet a friend she only knows through her blog. What an amazing thing the internet can be. It was so good for Sheri to meet someone walking the same path, someone she did not need to fear speaking the truth with. It is so hard to believe there are so many people traveling this road. It did help Sheri to remember she is not alone. Thank you Linda, for taking the time to have lunch with me, and sharing your journey :)
Galatians 6:2 Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.