This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri had s wisdom tooth extracted yesterday. Brain is still foggy today, but with Thanksgiving a round the corner Sheri is thinking of where she was just a few short years ago. So this morning before the Vicodin kicks again she will take a moment to share how thankful she and take a glimpse back at all the things has to be thankful for God is good.

Year in Review  from 2011
Sheri is very happy and willing to have this year of 2011 come to an end.
1.In  January Bob ruptured a disk in his back., for about the 4th time.
2,February spent with multiple procedures to lessen extreme pain, without surgery.
3.Bob and Al spent March and half of April in a nursing home, undergoing physical therapy.
4.Mid April Bob and Al release to daycare, doctors decided he can not be left alone any more so daycare was the only option to avoid him continually injuring himself.
5. May Sheri decides she is in overwhelm and that they would be better off in Texas closer to her parents, weather better, no snow no boiler to deal with.
Sheri gives notice to job of 22 years in anticipation of the move.
Sheri has to let the house go to beginning of the foreclosure prosess and has to file bankruptcy.
6.June Sheri begins the process of packing the house for Texas.
7.July still packing and sorting, packing in sorting, packing and sorting,
8.Beginning of August Sheri finds out benefits for Bob and Al will not be the same in TX, and daughter number 2's ( the one that shields her heart with her sleeve) 4 year college scholarship is partially based on being a MN resident EEK.
Sheri, within a week of moving,  began to have doubts about her decision and after much prayer decides too much is at risk, and stops the move. Stops the move with no home no job.Only faith.
9.Most of August and September Sheri spends job and home searching, relying on Gods promises.
10.October Sheri beings to panic, the sheriff sale of her home is November 21. October 25th, God gives Sheri a home and a job all in the same week. An unbelievable answer to prayer.
11.November week one starts her new job and week 2 through the grace of God and help from friends at church gets moved to a new home.
12.December the family is mostly settled, very, very thankful and so very ready to be done with 2011!
Having to make all the decisions, as an Alzheimer spouse is very, very difficult, Sheri can not believe she and the family survived this year!

Sheri is wishing everyone a very blessed new year! God is good!

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri had another idea for Bob. She had purchased some wire nuts in yellow , blue and red and thought maybe he could sort them by color. Sheri's hope was since he managed a hardware store in his last career that the sorting the wire nuts would be familiar to him.  Well, Bob certainly liked handling the wire nuts, but sorting them was not his thing. "Al" decided he should separate them in groups of 20 for some reason, which he attempted to do over and over again with the same handful of yellow wire nuts. He even asked for tape so he could label the containers (something he did often years ago)  "I need to get this done for the store", he said over and over again. Well it was not Sheri's mission but it was "Al's" and it kept Bob and "Al" engaged for almost 2 hours , and they felt they were doing something of value, and at this stage of the game, that is what is important. :)

Monday, November 24, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

In Sheri's never ending quest to keep Bob engaged in activities, several days ago Sheri had Bob screwing nuts on bolts ( for no particular reason). Sheri had thought she had given Bob equal amounts of each, but Bob kept insisting not. Well. when Sheri was cleaning up this week end she realized that apparently "Al" did not enjoy the project as much as Bob, because when Sheri moved Bob's coffee cup on his end table, hidden in the hole (from an old light pole) were the rest of the nuts. :)

Sunday, November 23, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is thrilled Bob still enjoys music the way he does, but "Al" slaps his big hands against Bob's thighs so hard while listening to music, she is surprised Bob legs are not black and blue :)  

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob and "Al" are sharing space
"Al's" confusion is showing on Bob's face.

"Al" is eating all the time,
Bob's pants are tight and he is not sure why.

"Al" goes to "work", and talks all day
Bob comes home and has nothing to say.

"Al" seems happy and living carefree
Bob is a stranger not often seen.

Together sharing life it's the best it can be
Sheri and Bob and "Al" makes three.

Friday, November 21, 2014

November is Alzheimer's Awareness Month

You may think this stuff is to hard to read
It is depressing I know at best
 "it doesn't affect" me.."
so I"ll pretend, I'll pretend  it doesn't exist

But the very hardest part of this reality
Is that this could be anybody's "Bob"
Anybody's family

It just might be your Grandpa
or Mr. Green jeans right next door
it could be your doctor
or the cashier at the store

It could be your Grandma
or the one that does your hair
It could be sister
Would that make you care?

Learn the warning signs
that signal, that all may not be right
So the shadows will not overtake
your "Bob's" shining light.

Proverbs 4:7
Wisdom is supreme; therefore get wisdom.
Though it cost all you have, get understanding.

Thursday, November 20, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

"Al" sat and watched the news of all the snow that fell with more coming,  not understanding it was in New York.  Bob, the planner that he is turned to Sheri with a sincere question in his voice said
 " maybe I should go outside and lay all the tarps on the ground?"   :)

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob apparently had a busy day at "work" (code for Adult Day Center) has he explained he spent the day "getting all the product out".Sheri is not quite sure what he would have done with the "product" but it sounds like it kept him busy :)

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Thoughts inside Bob's head

Talk to me now
For my moment is now.
My minute is gone
It was a moment to long.

 My eye's search your face
for a familiar place
It is a place I'm sure I've been
Over and over again.

I can't find my way
So I need you to stay
Right here beside me
so my shadow can see.

Monday, November 17, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

It feels like January in the frozen tundra right now, which made for a very long weekend. Sheri had Bob screwing nuts onto bolts for lack of much else to do. When she tried to switch activities thinking he might be bored "Al" said "No, can't...gotta get this finished."
Once a work alcoholic, always a work alcoholic  :)