This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri sees change in the wind again. This time more with herself, then the constant change with Bob and "Al". Daughter number 2 (the one that shields her heart with her sleeve) will be leaving soon for California, to prepare for the return home of her very new husband. from deployment. She is so happy for her to start her new life, but Sheri will miss her greatly.
Then when Sheri got home from work yesterday, there was a card in the door from the county Land Acquisitions office, stating that she needed to contact them right away because this tiny house Sheri rented ( when they lost theirs to what Sheri calls Alzheimer Foreclosure) is affected by a major expansion project. Eek.  Change so hard for Bob... and Sheri .
Sheri thinks she needs to pause, praise and pray.

Tuesday, July 22, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri gets so frustrated when she tries so hard to keep Bob active and engaged in activities all day, and then when they finally sit down, relax and get ready for bed "Al" will say "So, what is the plan for today?"  Sheri just needs to not try so hard.  :)

Monday, July 21, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri has been trying to figure out how all of her bird feeders are completely empty everyday, even with the baffles around them. 

Sheri and Bob happened to glance out the window yesterday and saw this deer, "Al" however saw a "horse", and has been talking about it ever since.  :)
Well, he is close...

Sunday, July 20, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Well Sheri should have learned by now not to walk out of the bedroom while helping Bob get dressed. He complained all day yesterday about being hot, probably because "Al" had three shirts, and his pajama bottoms on under his jeans, which Sheri did not see... till bed time. :)

Saturday, July 19, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri had to stay a little later at work yesterday, which meant she would be late to the day care. She asked Daughter Number One ( the one who wears her heart on her sleeve) to pick up Bob for her. She said sure. Then she text Sheri and said "Mom I am going to kidnap Dad for a while so after work grab your camera and go take some pictures!" What a delightful, and needed surprise!
Just a couple of hours away from "Al" totally alone helped Sheri so much. Daughter Number One is turning 24 this year, Sheri is so very proud of her. Sheri found a little peace among the chaos of her life.

Friday, July 18, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob has not been able to turn the TV on in years. Sheri is trying to hook up the old VCR. Bob wants to help... " Well, "Al" says scratching Bob's head " Maybe we should call a plumber."  :)

Thursday, July 17, 2014

Wednesday, July 16, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is feeling a bit overwhelmed lately. Well may be a lot overwhelmed. She has seen so many changes, in a short period of time. She knows she needs to think about how much longer she can do this. Working full time and care-giving is exhausting. Most of the time besides work and Bob she has no idea what is going on in the world around her. How does she make such a decision? She has always had an issue with guilt. Sheri's heart hurts.

Tuesday, July 15, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

When Sheri picked Bob up from "work" (code for Adult Day Center) yesterday, she asked Bob how is day went. "Al" said " pretty good, there was a few things I had to straighten out though." Sheri replied "like what?" "Al" shaking his head said " there was a mix up with cars that were all going zig zag back and forth, but I got them all straighten out."
?   :)

Monday, July 14, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob had quite the outburst last evening. Sheri was helping get him ready for bed. Bob did not want to put his pajamas on, but he did. Then Sheri realized "Al"  had slipped Bob's shoes back on as well. Sheri simply said " Oh, we are climbing into bed so lets take your shoes off. " "Bob started almost ripping his pajamas off! He was angry and and his jaw was clenched tight. Sheri tried to stay calm, but she has really never seen him act like that. "Bob" she said " It is okay to leave your PJ's on, just slip your shoes off and we will go to bed." He took off his shoes" climbed into bed and it took almost an hour before he calmed down.
Subtle changes, she hates this disease.