This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog "Al" represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Friday, October 24, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri struggles with the lack of affection and relationship in her life. There are no answers to this issue. The truth is, it had been this way even long before "Al" was officially moved in. She knows it is not Bob's fault, but jealousy sets in quickly when she sees other couples their age, walking hand in hand or sharing a quiet moment on a park bench. She tries to just pause, praise and pray, in those moments, but the truth is it is not easy, and she is still human.

Proverbs 14:30  A tranquil heart gives life to the flesh, but envy makes the bones rot.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Most of the time Bob is silent, nodding his head from time to time as if he agrees with what Sheri is saying , even if  "Al" clearly does not understand. But last night Bob was trying very hard to relay something that had happened at "work" (code for Adult Day Center), but the story was so mixed up and repetitive , Sheri could not make heads or tails out of the conversation. She did gather though, that someone was in distress and "Al" tried to help.
Dear sweet man.

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob still whistles constantly, even off and on during the night, which Sheri has learned to tolerate. However, Pomp and Circumstance (although she loves that tune) is not really a great sleeping tune. :)

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was always a creature of habit. "A place for everything , and everything in it's place kind of guy. "Al" on the other hand, not so much. Although, Sheri did leave the bathroom is in it's place, "Al" still can't find it :)

Monday, October 20, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

In Sheri's never ending quest to keep Bob involved in activities, Sheri gave "Al" a bucket of  electrical terminals she bought at an overstock store. She thought since they were colored red , blue and yellow, that maybe she could get "Bob" to sort them. "Al" might have been content to just sort them, but "they" were struggling because that little part of "Bob the hardware guy"  that remains, felt  he could not sort them without knowing what "exactly" they were going to be used for.  :)

Sunday, October 19, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob was frustrated at work (code for Adult Day Center), no one wanted to cooperate. "Al" can't understand why no one has any ambition. (Sheri thinks it might be because most of his "employees" are well over 80 :)

Saturday, October 18, 2014

Friday, October 17, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob wanted to help feed the cats but as soon as Sheri let Bob fill the bowl, "Al" kept blocking Zoey the  cat with his arm, saying "I think we have to move this, to keep her out of it."  :)

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Bob and "Al" are showing new signs of anxiety now. A car or truck goes by the front of the house, the noise is a concern for him. If "they" can hear a fire truck or police car siren, a look of worry and confusion sweeps over "Al's" face and he will say "what is that?" with fear in his voice. Sheri has to say "it is okay it, they are going to help some one, or it is along way away."
Sheri hates this disease.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri does not like it when people say "Bob looks good" She knows they me well, but "Al" destroys from the inside out, looks are deceiving.