This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Saturday, January 20, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

This slow death known as Alzheimer's is pure evil. "Al's" aggressive behaviors forced Bob to be sent to the Geriatric Mental Health ward at the hospital yesterday. Where he will spend at least the next 2 weeks and where he will no doubt be medicated into a catatonic state. That may be a hard statement to hear but it is just a fact.
Sheri has no strength today to pause, praise and pray.

Friday, January 19, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Well it is January again. Sheri does not make resolutions. Not that there aren't things she needs to change about herself, there are ... but Webster defines a  resolution in two ways
 1. A firm decision to do or not to do something. 
2. The action of solving a problem, dispute, or contentious matter.

Neither of these seem attainable right now, maybe next year.  
Sheri needs to pause, praise and pray.

Wednesday, January 17, 2018

Livng with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is realizing just how deep she has been stuffing her emotions for so many years, it was a protective skin that allowed her to continue to face each day.  She knows that sounds a little weird, but she has been in what she refers to has "survival mode" for over ten years, and almost a year after Bob's placement the dam seems to be bursting ... daily. Excepting Bob's recent aggressive behavior and the major slide he is in from afar, and knowing she can not fix this is finally becoming real to her. Thanks to praying friends and those walking with her, she is still hanging on by a thread and often can not write her feelings away. Sheri knows she has a purpose in this life, God is carrying her through this part of her journey, because she is definitely to weak to walk.
  

Thursday, January 11, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is facing new challenges everyday, both on a personal level coping with the changes in Bob and the behavioral issues with "Al". She is trying hard to get outside herself, to care about others and their challenges because she looks around and sees a world of pain, this is just her journey and we all have one.
Sheri is going to continue to pause , praise and pray. 

Thursday, January 4, 2018

Living with Bob and "Al"

With all do respect for the caregivers working in facilities, Sheri thanks you from the bottom of her heart, she know this is not your fault, and many of you have a deep love for caring for our loved ones. She is learning however,  that "Memory care" can be a loose term. Sheri needs to think about solutions and help advocate for better staffing, better pay and better dementia training for caregivers, along with better communication to families. It takes a village to care for an Alzheimer victim. Sheri needs to pause, praise and pray.

Thursday, December 28, 2017

Living with Bob and "Al"

Christmas was not without challenges. Bob struggles with the most basic tasks. Trying to get "Al" to turn his legs so they were under the table to eat, reminded Sheri of the "how many people does it take to screw in a light bulb"  jokes. It took 3 of them working together to  accomplish this task... and that is not include Bob and "Al".
Heavy sigh... :)

Tuesday, December 26, 2017

Living with Bob and "Al"

After much thought and prayer, Sheri fulfilled daughter number 2's wish to have her Dad at her new home where the player piano found its new home. So as a family we made it happen. the tears at the end make the effort worth it. It is not the voices that are important it is what is in the heart. God is good.

Sunday, December 24, 2017

Tuesday, December 19, 2017

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is trying hard to redefine "self". But who is she? So many years of care-giving has left the pieces of "her life puzzle " scattered around on the floor. Sheri hates this disease.
Old photo of "Al" asking the cat to help with Bob's puzzle