This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Thursday, February 9, 2017

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri realized that she has not shared much about the day she placed Bob and "Al", she really has not been able to before now. But as usual, she went in with a plan.  She sent "the boys" off to "work" (code for Adult Day Center)  and then Sheri and girls got the room set up the morning of placement. While the girls were doing the finishing touches on the room she went to the Day Center and picked up "the boys". She was sick to her stomach the entire time. She did not say anything ahead of time, "Al" would not have understood anyway. When they walked into the faculty Sheri started making complimentary statements about how beautiful the place was and and admiring the pictures on the walls, the boys agreed with everything she said. When they got through the secured doors on the level where his room was, Sheri stated matter -a- fact-ly but with a big smile on her face that "this was where their new apartment was", showed him the room and said that "her room was right down the hall". She took him on a tour of their new "living room"( common area) commenting on how large and spacious it all was, "Al nodded and smiled in agreement. All the while Sheri thought that at any moment she would burst into tears, and throw up,  but held back by operating on auto pilot. The girls chatted with their Dad and left in the afternoon much like they would have at Sheri's real apartment. Sheri stayed through the afternoon and evening and colored with "Al" and eventually put him to bed in his new apartment. Bob and "Al" were safe. Then Sheri went home...and wept.

2 comments:

  1. Watching you go through this was gut wrenching Sheri. It was my worst nightmare. But then my hubby died, as you know. And, this wasn't to be in God's plan for us. You were amazing. Watching your experience made me realize how this will help others who will ultimately face the same fate., as you have helped me so many times over the last 4 years. To think that God had mercy on us because he took my husband from Cancer rather than Alzheimers reminds me how devastating this disease is. Your courage and your ability to walk thru the pain is a testament to your unbelievable strength. Sending my love and hugs. I hate this disease. ❤❤❤😘🙏

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