If Sheri were honest she would tell you that Bob and "Al" appear to be adjusting just fine, they did not change his meds as they realized that his behavior is just part of the way his disease presents itself, which is why he is living there. Sheri so appreciates them recognizing that and not just numbing him out with strong medicine. Sheri on the other hand, is struggling. How can she have cared for someone so long and "Al" doe not even know she is not there. It has created such mixed emotions. She is even angry that he does not miss her, which really makes no sense at all because she knew he did not know who she was even when he was at home. Of course she knows it is not his fault and it is the disease, but there are so many layers of emotions with this onion she is shedding tears over as she peels back the layers of her life, she thinks that this "ambiguous loss" thing, needs a whole specialty division in the world of therapy. This is one hot mess of a mind game she has going on in her head.
Sheri needs to Pause, Praise and Pray.
This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.