This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character "Al" that I created in 2008, represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.
There is an archive tab further down the page that starts from the beginning of our journey.
Monday, July 3, 2017
Living with Bob and "Al"
Sheri went to see "the boy's" this weekend. She is very glad to see "they " are doing well, but she does not understand this complex feeling of grief. She is so very glad Bob is happy in his new home, and yet Sheri still feels like a fish out of water. :(
You have to start a new life for yourself. Believe me I am trying to do it myself. At least in thinking. That is a start. Bob is where he needs to be and life does go on, even though at times it feels like it doesn't. You must know life is short. We are not spring chickens anymore!
Sheri my husband was only in a care home 8 months before he passed unexpectedly, but I remember so well those feelings of feeling out of step with "his" new routine...so many different staff members, trying to learn who you should talk to if you have any questions or concerns, i don't think i ever felt like i had a rhythm and then the inevitable happens and you see your spouse respond better to the staff than you, which of course makes sense because he now spends more time with them than us, but its a hard one to swallow...it is literally having a foot in two completely different worlds and it is very hard, but Bob, like my husband, adjusted extremely well and appeared happy and content in their world as they saw it and that is about the best thing we can hope for...Tanis
Posts
You have to start a new life for yourself. Believe me I am trying to do it myself. At least in thinking. That is a start. Bob is where he needs to be and life does go on, even though at times it feels like it doesn't. You must know life is short. We are not spring chickens anymore!
ReplyDeleteSheri my husband was only in a care home 8 months before he passed unexpectedly, but I remember so well those feelings of feeling out of step with "his" new routine...so many different staff members, trying to learn who you should talk to if you have any questions or concerns, i don't think i ever felt like i had a rhythm and then the inevitable happens and you see your spouse respond better to the staff than you, which of course makes sense because he now spends more time with them than us, but its a hard one to swallow...it is literally having a foot in two completely different worlds and it is very hard, but Bob, like my husband, adjusted extremely well and appeared happy and content in their world as they saw it and that is about the best thing we can hope for...Tanis
ReplyDelete