This blog is about life with my husband who was diagnosed with Early Onset Alzheimer's and Frontal Lobe Dementia in 2008. He was 64 at the time although now, knowing more about the disease, Alzheimer's was present many, many years ago, which is why early detection is so important. As you read the blog the character"Al" that I created in 2008 represents the way that Alzheimer's is invading our daily lives.

Wednesday, February 1, 2017

Living with Bob and "Al"

Sheri is cautiously optimistic for the" boys", and she is obviously very pleased about this."They" appear to be doing well, but however crazy this sounds almost to well for Sheri's emotional state. What she means is that she thought she had thought of every scenario that might happen.... and she had an emotional plan," what would she say if he asked  "why is he is here , what would the aids say if he asked for her, that type of thing. but apparently she missed the one where Bob and "Al" did not even notice Sheri was gone and were tucked into bed by an aid, and "they" fall asleep peacefully.
Sheri should be on praise but is only on pause.

6 comments:

  1. So many of your friends are singing Praises for you. Thank you for updates; he'll be fine, you'll be fine. You've Kept the Faith. Be well. Marie

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  2. Sheri, you are amazing. My guess is that with Bob safe, you are now allowed to grieve. Jesus will walk beside you every step of the way, even when you can't see Him or hear Him. By God's grace, you have been given the gift of opening up enough space within yourself to feel what you now have to feel. Believe me, I don't usually talk like this, but I hope it makes sense. Grief is a part of Love. xxx Elizabeth

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  3. It's wonderful that the two of them appear to be adjusting. Having experienced this journey I can safely advise all of your emotional responses will be needed as the days, weeks, and months progress. Any tools in your possession for relaxing (photography)can now be dusted off and put to good use. Sally E.

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  4. One of the most profound things I;ve ever heard came right from your blog Sheri and you said Sheri realizes that Bob needs someone to care for him, it just doesn't necessarily have to be Sheri..that hit me right between the eyes and made me pause and say that is right on the money...it was one of the hardest realities to face but it helped a great deal for perspective...i hope you will feel better with the passing of days and my thoughts are with you...Tanis

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  5. I know it's hard for you to feel like you aren't missed, but how wonderful that he or "they" seem to be adjusting well! It is a blessing of sorts. Hang in there, Sheri!

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  6. I can imagine that you feel a mixture of relief and grief knowing that Bob is adjusting well to his new home and not realizing that you are not with him there.Grieving the loss due to this disease is so complicated as our loved ones are still around but not really there as we have known them and related to them prior to "Al". I am so sorry that you have to go through this but I trust that our Good Shephard will lead you beside still waters and restore your soul. His rod and staff will comfort you during these days. He will watch over Bob and His love will be a shelter for both of you.

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